The betrayal-trauma can shatter your most deeply held assumptions, tearing apart the reality of a relationship that once grounded you and gave meaning to your life. As you sift through these difficult reactions, you may start to notice that certain feelings exist along side their polar opposites, for instance, you may feel both the desire for revenge and the desire to help; the desire to flee and the desire to hang in there; the desire to be vulnerable and the desire to shield yourself from potential pain. Part of your confusion and the intensity of your pain might involve conflicting emotions — reactions to the complicated reality that the person who hurt you is in need of help and may seek your support. These emotional polarities discussed below are confusing; they can lead you to doubt yourself and make you uncertain about how to respond in any given moment. The anger-betrayal reaction can be overwhelming and lead us to lash out verbally, throw objects, and even physically strike out at the one who wounded us so deeply. You may need to pull away emotionally in order to protect yourself from further injury. With the knowledge that your husband may struggle to control his behavior, he has become both a source of danger and someone in need — a danger you want to escape from and a person in need whom you want to comfort. These inner conflicts intense anger and concern are overwhelming. They create unsettling shifts in your mood, making you feel like you are being tossed around by an inner storm you have little control over.
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If you suspect that your husband is a sex addict, you have come to the right place to get some guidance. If he watches porn on the internet and uses his phone to look at inappropriate pictures of other women, you may be wondering whether there is hope. The good news is that there is — and not just any hope, but the hope of God. Recall your wedding day.
Can you pinpoint when it all began?
Those with sex addiction also known as a hypersexual disorder will act in a way that is out of control, harms them and those they love, and continues despite negative consequences. Being married to a sex addict significantly impacts a marriage — and never in a positive way. It can make you feel very lonely, unfulfilled, and wondering if your husband loves you at all. You may feel like nothing more than an object — or a roommate. Many, if not the vast majority, of sex addicts have difficulties with intimacy. For normal men, sex is one of the primary ways they express their love and affection for their partner. Sex addicts, however, usually have difficulties establishing close relationships, even with their spouse.
This type of betrayal is an ongoing pattern of sexual behavior such as frequenting strip clubs, viewing pornography, compulsive masturbation, prostitution, repetitive encounters with sexual partners, and other behaviors that are destructive to both the individual and to the marital relationship. These individuals, though married, have never been able to find complete fulfillment from their marriage. They are enslaved by a drive to satisfy their longings. Driven by obsessive thoughts and compulsive behaviors, they are powerless over their extra-marital attachments to behaviors, people, or objects such as pornography.
